A Writing Quandary
By: Sassy Sue
I sit in my favorite Starbucks, staring into the screen of my laptop, sipping on my sinful pleasure of the week an Iced Cinnamon Dolce Latte trying to decide what flavor of sex I should write about this week for my blog. I have written so much about the lesbian experiences of my life, the lesbian life style has become passé and no longer is shrouded in the mystique of the lesbian culture. In fact Lesbianism has almost become main stream in today's society.
Most women, if not all, have two fantasies and one is for a white woman is to be taken by a black man that is endowed with a monster penis and the other is to have sex with a woman. Almost every woman under the age of twenty-five has had a fantasy of being with another woman. Many women have experimented with being with a woman, that daring girl-on-girl kiss, a quick feel of another woman' breast or maybe it was a little grope brought on by a bit too much to drink. I have been guilty of all these and much more. Short or long term relationships, a clandestine hookup for as a one night stand and now even marriage to a woman. I do enjoy a steady source of pussy free of all the drama of dating. I am bi-sexual and still have the affinity to have a man from time to time. To feel a throbbing cock in my pussy however that is not always possible. So now what is a girl supposed to do when she craves a hard cock in her and her bedmate lover is a woman?
To use a strap on lover you must ask does she want you to use the strap. For me I always state a resounding yes! It is the solution for me and many women before me has been and still is the strap-on dildo! The strap is an essential for every woman to have in her toy box. To wear a strap and use a strap takes practice and does not happen overnight. Some people I will admit are naturally gifted and will be able to use one off the bat without really thinking about it much. However for the rest of us mere mortals you will have to practice strapping it to your body properly so it doesn't hurt you too much but it tight enough to allow for control.
My first experience with a strap as a receiver was nothing short of one of the best damn orgasms I had had at that point in my young life. My lover, an older woman with many years of experience, had me begging her to use her strap on me. Over time I had her strap in every orifice that my body had to offer but when she fucked my pussy with her strap it was what I enjoyed the most. Her strap was versatile, one of those with interchangeable cocks, a cock for every occasion and ethnicity.
Soon I had my own strap and I was filled with the wonder and joy that I was going to be able to give a woman the pleasure of my strap. Like most youth, I had no idea of what to do with this marvelous instrument of sexual pleasure. Case in point is my first attempt at strap-on sex. Stepping into the harness I snugged the belt around my waist, my dildo drooping, askew and at an angle that would be impossible for any man to achieve without a great deal of pain and damage. We laughed hysterically, two naked girls and a lopsided dick. You have to have a sense of humor for your first time with a strap because there will some disasters along the way to orgasm.
We made some adjustments to the leg straps and the waist strap and soon I resembled a woman with tits and a jutting hard-on. Now the challenge is rhythm which is required to use a strap is inextricably linked to how often you've used one and in my case, never. It was like two virgin teenagers making love in the backseat of his dad's Chevrolet. Lots of poke and misses, an inability to keep the dildo in her pussy with a general clumsiness when trying to create a memorable event, sigh. So many things that went so wrong and so my advice would be to go slow and when you get your bearings go for it. It did not take me long how to use my strap as if I was a man.
However wearing and using a strap can be a full on experience especially if you haven't used one before and in your case the added factor of you being a strap-on virgin also plays a part in it. So take it slow make sure you slowly insert the strap in because unlike human tissue dildo's can be quiet hard and if you thrust and you miss your lovers pussy it can cause her pain. Taking a strap, well that all depends on how comfortable you are with taking it.
Some lesbians I know don't like penetration and refuse to take it. While others like penetration but only with using fingers and not the strap. I subscribe to the theory of using a strap and burying it in her pussy or vice versa. It's all about being comfortable with the idea of being penetrated by a strap on. Also if it's your first time and basically every time afterwards don't be scared to use as much lubricant as you want or need. Don't be cheap with lubricant it's your friend and if your very tight then it'll help lessen the friction you might feel and increase the pleasure you seek. Also if you are taking or giving strap for the first time I suggest using the safer positions like missionary or doggie style. Personally I think doggie style is the best, but then I am a girl who loves it from behind, for first timers as you are able to see what you are doing and have more control on the depth and speed. Either way make sure you use lubricant and that you are in a comfortable position. There is nothing worse than trying to use a strap on for the first time and being in a really uncomfortable position.
As your experience gets better and you get better using a strap then by all means be adventurous with your positions but don't risk it if you are only starting out. Also when buying a strap don't get anything that is to large especially for your first time get something that doesn't intimidate yourself or your lover. It can be quiet intimidating if you whip out a nine inch long and beer can thick strap that your lover is going to jump up on it. It's not exactly the best idea.
Talk to your lover about it, discuss how big you both want to get it, what lubricants you want to use, what material you want the dildo to be, if you want to reuse your dildo what type of condoms you want to use. There are lots of different things that need to be considered before jumping up on a strap. But I will say this much I love to use and have used on me a strap-on dildo. They are great for that late night craving to have something stiff in your pussy, something for your pussy to cling to when no man is available. By no means is the strap a replacement for a man but it is one hell of a toy without all the BS a man can bring into the bed Strap up and ride hard girls.
Hey guys, food for thought, a strap is good for pegging, so remember that when you want to tap that ass, she can tap yours now.