The ultimate question in my mind , one that I continually struggle with personally is "Are we meant to be monogomous beings?
Are we all meant to find that one person that we can share our lives with for eternity?
Are we meant to stay with this person until "death do us part"?
Is it really possible to maintain that level of arrousal, that level of passion, that level of desire for a life time with the same person?
If not then what is the alternative? Sexual freedom without commitment? Is that really any better?
Would that make us feel any better?
Would that make for relationships that met both peoples needs any better than marraige does now?
If I think back to all the weddings I have stood up for, seven in total, not one of those friends is still married to the same person.............. nope not one.
They all had differing stories as to why they seperated. Some found themselves incompatible, what ever that means, and some found another person that they became interested in
But the fact that they all divorced speaks volumes to me. They were all passionately in love at those weddings that cost small fortunes to everyone involved.
They all thought they had met their "soul mates" and planned to commit to each other for life..............
But gradually over time, they all seperated and divorced.
Should we instead commit to that one person for companionship and emotional support but to another being to provide the passion and the desire that we all crave?
Is that the reason that they all seperated? For passion and lust and desire?
We all search for someone to love us, to care about us and to commit to just us , I think. But is that meant to last a lifetime?
I have talked with so many people on this site who are still married but whose spouses have stopped being interested in sexual pleasure. Does that mean they too have to give up those pleasures?
Many other facets come into play in answering these questions. Issues like religon, family , children, societal norms and conventions.
I still have no answer to these questions. And after spending half my life in one relationship I still dont knwow what would be any better.Perhaps I'll stick with marriage until society comes up with a better idea.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on this one.